You ARE limitless

YOUR POTENTIAL IS UNLIMITED. 

You know that, don’t you?

The reality is that you won’t ever actually fulfill that potential. It really isn’t possible to. There will always be more to do, always be more to have, always be more to be. And that is all good, because we always have somewhere to go. 

The sad truth is that most of you won’t even tap the surface of that potential. 

Most will never even know their own power. 

They will think about, possibly dream about it, spend some time wondering “if only” or “what if”, yet they will not ever step into the being, and thusly never the doing and the having. 

Why?

We are programmed for predictability. It is a survival mechanism. 

There is much comfort in living the same way everyday (even if it is not what you desire). 

This is what makes changing so damn difficult, the comfort…and the sheer terror that can ignite when we even think about really changing or start to step into it. Your nervous system literally sends you signals of distress that cause fear and anxiety. 

The fear largely stems from stepping into the unknown…

If you are not being the person that you have always been, then WHO are you going to be?

That is a pretty important question to answer.

And even more important is actually stepping into BEING that person. 

And maybe you have heard this before, or perhaps even answered a series of questions that get you to this point, it is a common practice…

They tell you…want a relationship? WHO ARE YOU BEING IN THAT RELATIONSHIP

Want more money? WHO ARE YOU BEING WHEN YOU HAVE IT?

Want to be happy? Just BE it. 

You hear it all the time.

Yet, you can’t seem to actually BE.

And why is that?
Your identity. 

You see, if you identify as someone who is not worthy of a relationship…you will have a hard time finding one.

If you identify as poor, you can “act” rich all you want but it just won’t cut it. 

Most of your identity was formed before you were 8 years old. 

It seems a little crazy, yet that is what has been running your whole life.

And know, maybe you are questioning…what is my identity?

Want to know who you believe you are?

Look no further than your current reality. 

Look at the patterns in your life, in your relationships, in your money. 

Want to change it?

I hate to break it to you, but it really just isn’t enough to read the books, to do to the programs, or the affirmations. 

This is why motivation and most of the ra-ra bullshit in the personal development industry just doesn’t do much. 

You have to change your identity on a SUBCONCIOUS level. 

This is why I am obsessed with learning about the subconscious mind, how it works and how we can change it.

There are a number of different ways to do this, and if you are seriously ready to be who you need to be to create the life you want to live, I highly suggest that you start at the identity level. 

Look at your current reality. Look at your patterns. Look at who you have been, what it has gotten you and what you would like your life to look at instead. See where the gap is and work from there. This will be some of the most powerful work you can ever do.

I STILL FEEL GUILTY

I STILL FEEL GUILTY.

I just got back from a beautiful trip in Mexico, with a man that I love, spending our days adventuring, soaking in the sunshine, experiencing and enjoying the fuck out of life.

And I had this moment, sitting on lover’s beach having just swam in the Sea of Cortez surrounded by rock formations older than I can imagine and so much beauty where I was filled with so much gratitude, and so much love that I became overcome with emotions, my eyes started to tear and I thought to myself; I CREATED THIS.

This life that I get to be living, this freedom and fullness I feel in my heart, the love that I am experiencing with another person.

I created this from nothing, from the lowest point in my life.

From a place where I did not know who I was anymore, a place where I had given my power away for years, stayed in a relationship that was killing me for far too long, a place where I was constantly putting everyone and everything before myself, a time where my voice was silenced, I was a shell of who I knew I could be. I allowed outside forces to dictate who I believed I was and how I lived my life.

I was miserable, for years, hoping for a way out. WISHING that something would change, that it would just get better somehow.

I WANTED it to change, I really did, and I was terrified of what that meant…leaping into the unknown, leaving behind everything that I knew, leaving behind the comfort (no matter how uncomfortable it was).

I would think “it isn’t bad all of the time” or have those fleeting moments of happiness that I would try so desperately to hold on to.

I would tell myself, ‘it’s fine’ (this term is a death sentence-who the fuck wants a “fine” life anyway?)

I doubted that there was better, I doubted that I DESERVED better.

Until it had to stop. It all had to stop.

I remember it so clearly, the voice screaming at me from within “KELLY-WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING, REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE”.

And in that moment, it all changed…

I decided that I was worth more.

I decided that my life was worth living.

I decided that even though I didn’t know HOW, I was never going to be in that position again.

I look back at that girl, and I don’t even recognize her anymore, I feel compassion for her and all that she has been through, I thank her for the lessons and I forgive her for the mistakes.

And as I was sitting there, on that beautiful beach, so happy, so full and so grateful…the guilt feeling started to creep in…

The old story of “who am I to deserve this” (yes this still comes up for me and is something I continually work on)

The knowing, that most people…they won’t ever get to experience these feelings, the love, the freedom, the joy and intense pleasure.

Most people won’t ever let go of the stories and limitations they have created for themselves to truly be able to LIVE.

Most people will live a mediocre, mostly unfulfilling life.

A life that they want to be different, and it just won’t ever be.

Most people are not willing to do the work.

Most people are not willing to go into their SOUL, clean out the darkness and fill it with light.

Most people are not willing to be committed to themselves, to pleasure, to living in their unapologetic truth, to OWNING who they are.

This is just the reality.

The question is, is it your reality?

Are you most people?...
Never truly living up to who you know you are meant to be? Never experiences the joy, the love and the abundance that you are here to have?

Or are you one of US?

Boldy REFUSING to settle for mediocre.

Willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to live the life you deserve?

Willing to push through the resistance, the doubts, the fears, the questions and do the FUCKING work?

So that you can live a life better than you have imagined.

So that you can be free.

I want this for you, I want you to reclaim your power, remember who you are, and experience the beauty of life.

If you are NOT most people, if you are ready to step into who you know you are meant to BE, reach out, I am here to support you.

Kelly xx

A piece of my Empowerment Journey

I am passionate about EMPOWERING WOMEN.

I stand in my power and I make no apologies for it.

But it was not always this way for me.

The reason that I have stepped into this work, the reason that it drives me so strongly every single day and keeps me going, keeps me fighting for my clients, allows me to hold space for them and their transitions, is because I was once incredibly dis-empowered.

I spent years playing small and sleeping through life.

I didn’t know who I was, I felt that there was more but I had NO CLUE how to actually step into that potential.

I was looking everywhere but inside of myself for the answers.

I was stuck in a miserable, extremely unhealthy relationship that I gave all of my power away to.

I lost the ability to speak my voice. I shut down my inner voice for so long that it stopped even guiding me. I lost the ability to stand up for myself, there were many times that I questioned what the point of actually living was. I was numb.

I stayed for so long because I was afraid of change, I was afraid of the unknown…

I had created a prison for myself that I did not know how to get out of.

That is the thing about humans, we are really good with getting and staying in comfort zones even when they aren’t serving us.

My breaking free took preparation of my mind, I slowly started to believe that I could create a different life, I slowly started to realize that I had been compromising myself and my worth, I had been undervaluing my own life.

I started questioning, pushing back and eventually I had to JUMP.

I was not READY, I was scared.

Terrified actually.

I just knew it had to be done, so I did whatever it took to make it work.

I didn’t have the money, I didn’t have a plan…

I was tired of the excuses and tired of living a life that wasn’t for ME, and I REFUSED to take it anymore.

I made the DECISION that my life was worth it, that I WAS WORTHY. I made the decision to take all that I had been giving away and give to myself.

This was a process, and it still is.

I am now grateful for that experience, the lessons that it taught me…

I am grateful that I went through the pain and the suffering to be shown HOW to step into my POWER so that I can help other women to do the same.

Life is too short to be with people that don’t make you feel amazing.

Life is too short to wake up everyday without the feeling like a miracle could happen.

Life is too short to SETTLE for things that don’t set your fucking soul on fire.

You are here to live in happiness, love and joy…this is your natural state of being. It is available to you NOW, no matter how long you have denied this, no matter how long you have pushed it away, it has not left you…

IT IS WITHIN YOU...
the question is, are you willing you receive it?

Are you willing to let go of the baggage, the things you carry around that you have made a part of you?

It Is Time To Stop Shaming Yourself

IT IS TIME TO STOP SHAMING YOURSELF.

I used to think the things that I had been through damaged me in some way.

I would beat myself up and ask myself things like “how did I let this happen?!”

I felt like a fraud in a lot of ways, and would worry what people would think if they “found out”.

I think this is what keeps so many from opening up about what they are going through, the fear of rejection, the fear of being judged.

The fear that NO ONE WILL UNDERSTAND…

because truthfully, you don’t fully understand it yourself…

I mean how did you LET this happen? How is it that your life actually looks like this? How is it that you are in a toxic relationship? Or Broke? Or just SO fucking UNHAPPY?...

Even with that smile on your face? Even though you tell everyone all is good?

<It is EXHAUSTING>

Because deep down, you really just want to be SEEN…understood and loved.

You just want someone to tell you that it is all ok, that you will be ok. 

Here is the thing…

To be ok – to actually be “all is good”…

you have to let it out.

You have to feel through it.

You have to speak your truth.

And you have to LOVE THE FUCK OUT OF YOURSELF ANYWAY.

Because once you start to do that, your entire perception changes.

Once I started to love myself despite of it all – all the things I went through, all the things I was ASHAMED of, the things I didn’t want to admit, well…everything changed.

Those things brought me through a magnificent transformation, and I am now GRATEFUL for it all…

I know that I would not be the beautiful, strong person that I am today had I not been through all of the pain.

A few things have brought me to this place.

1. Knowing I was doing the best I could at the time (we all are). I am human, I make mistakes and that is ok.
2. Power is only in the present, we can not change the past, but we can control how it effects us now through forgiveness (of yourself and others).
3. Accepting that my soul needed to learn these lessons for my growth (yes, I CHOSE this) and understanding and BELIEVING that life is happening FOR me.
4. Accepting responsibility for my life, my actions or inaction and now choosing to create what I want instead of taking what comes.
5. Taking ACTION on stepping into a new way of being, a new way of seeing, and doing the INNER WORK.

This is self love…loving ALL of you….even the parts you thought you never could.

Despite what you have been through, you aren’t broken, you are beautiful.

I see your strength.

I see your beauty.

I see your power.

Do you?

Kelly Kristin xx

The Light Is the Darkness that You Fear

The LIGHT IS THE DARKNESS THAT YOU FEAR

You may have heard the concept of the shadow, or the dark side that we all have. This is the side that is controlled by ego, keeps us small, keeps us closed off from abundance, or at its worst can lead us to a life of addiction and self sabotage.

We all have it, the side that maybe we are afraid to admit that we give in to all too often. Some of us live mostly in it without ever even realizing it.

But on my path to the light, to living with purpose, integrity and awareness, I have come to realize that the light is the darkness. When you are standing in the light, the darkness becomes more apparent, more real and more difficult to understand.

It has been over 6 months since I have chosen to give up all mind alerting substances. This means no alcohol, no marijuana, the seemingly harmless substances that so many rely on in their day to day life. These used to be the things that I relied on to get myself out of my own head. To tune out, relax and unwind. And while I never had a problem with these substances, consciously not using them at all has allowed me to go to a deeper level of self awareness that I did not expect.

I would also like to add that sugar, over eating, binge watching television, shopping for things we don’t need, excessive social media use, etc. are all ways that we use to get out of our minds and avoid self awareness. They are ways to turn to something outside of ourselves so that we don’t have to face what we are actually thinking and feeling.

But when you consciously decide to deal with your own shit. Not use any substances, or any way “out”, It can be overwhelming. When you are very tuned in and AWARE of all of your thoughts, feelings and emotions it can make you want to RUN and hide and go straight to the escapist behaviors. When you are committed to self awareness and committed to figuring it out and not turning away it can be appalling what you find. The feelings that come up that you thought that you dealt with. The bullshit stories that you have been telling yourself that you can no longer hide behind. The thoughts that you don’t want to be thinking. The feelings that you don’t want to feel. It can all be too much. When you are standing in the light, life is magnified. You FEEL everything. And you see your DARKNESS for exactly what it is. You are forced to deal with your short comings, forced to face truths about yourself that you would rather push away.

And while this can be difficult, messy and uncomfortable, it is incredibly LIBERATING. It takes work. It takes constant reflection and introspection. It takes bravery, honesty and integrity. And it will MASSIVELY improve your life. The more aware you are of your own thoughts, feelings and emotions, the less you are CONTROLLED by them, and the more control you have over your own reality.

The escape from darkness lies in recognizing that the darkness cannot hide and you would not want to hide it even if you could. Embrace yourself fully just as you are.

And I know that you may be thinking, I like to have a glass of wine it helps me relax, or you are accustomed to going out and having drinks as a form of celebration, but have you really thought about why? Why we have to have a poisonous mind-altering substance to allow us to FEEL amazing? To have FUN? To be able to let-go and relax?

Why are we afraid to FULLY embrace life AS OURSELVES?

Because truly if you were loving and accepting yourself completely and not GIVING A FUCK about what anyone else says or thinks, maybe you would start having A LOT more fun. Maybe you wouldn’t need an escape to ALLOW yourself to be happy and joyful.

Now, I am not pretending to be perfect or that I have all of the answers, I have certainly done my fair share of escapism and it is still something I must check in on. But I can tell you that from my experience, I have never felt more “high” than I do on life right now. I have never felt my vibration so powerful and my spirit so strong.

So the next time that you are reaching for that glass of wine, the cookies, mindlessly scrolling on social or just straight up avoiding yourself…maybe it is time to ask why. You might be surprised by what you find.

I am here to support you.

Much love, 

Kelly Kristin xx

If You Want Change than YOU must change.

NOTHING CHANGES IF YOU DON’T CHANGE

Pretty revolutionary, right?

Yes, it is fucking obvious that if you don’t change NOTHING will change.

I mean really…you don’t need me, or anyone to tell you that.

But it does beg the question…

Why are you still doing the same things?

Why are you still acting the same, believing the same and thinking the same?

I was once this way.

I wanted so badly to change. But couldn’t figure out HOW.

I consumed so much information. Book after book.

Listened to SO many webinars.

SO many ͞motivational͟ speakers and podcasts. 
It wasn’t until I STOPPED consuming so much, and started IMPLEMENTING that my life was able to truly change…

That my mind was able to break free of my limitations and all of the things that I thought I knew. To break free from my past that was holding me back, to FINALLY show up as the ME that I truly am. To be able to have the BUSINESS, the RELATIONSHIPS, the MONEY.

The truth is, you can consume all of the information that you want, but without action is useless. 
KNOWLEDGE is not power. ACTION is.

So if you want to change your life, your business, your relationships…

You have all of the tools.

You have everything that you need.

It is INSIDE of you.

I know that resistance is real.

I know that change is SCARY.

But I also know that you DESERVE to live a life where you are healthy, happy and whole.

As humans, we have a fear of change. There is something in our brain that triggers that the unfamiliar can potentially be dangerous. But it is 2017 and that danger doesn’t exist anymore.

Stop letting the false narrative control your life.

If you want change, than YOU must change.

And you can change at any time. It starts with a decision. 

Much Love, 

Kelly Kristin xx

How To Shift Out of VICTIMLAND

HOW TO SHIFT OUT OF VICTIMHOOD AND INTO CREATION.

Here is the deal, so many of us (my former self included) live in VICTIM LAND.

This is a place where you feel like things happen to you, you get angry at other people…you think things like “if only HE wasn’t doing _____ my life would be so much better”

Or “if my job was _____ I would be so much happier”.

You feel like you don’t really have any control, you wake up day to day and just EXSIT, but you don’t do what YOU want (maybe on the rare weekend, but certainly NEVER on a DAILY basis).

You work a job that is unfulfilling, you think you HAVE to do certain things because that is “just how life is”.

But the BIGGEST problem?

You give your POWER away…

To things OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF.

When you live in victim land, you forget that YOU have control over your own reactions and life! You forget that you are the creator of your reality.

So how do you get out of this?

1. Take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life, you have to become the cause. You created the life that you are living, EVERY PART OF IT. This may be super-confronting, but you must start here, we avoid being honest with ourselves because when we actually do then it means you might just have to DO something about it and not stay stuck, and that is the comfort zone.

2. CLARITY. What do you really want out of life? So many of us know what we DON’T want, know what makes us unhappy, but forget to actually CHOOSE to create what we DO want. You have to get clarity, create a vision for your life and take steps towards it daily.

3. FORGIVENESS. And this is HUGE! If you are harboring resentments, feeling ill towards someone, say things like “I hope he dies” (hey, I don’t judge I have BEEN there)….then you are giving your power away. You are giving your peace away, and as long as you do that you ARE a victim. Forgiveness is NOT always easy, but it will lighten and improve your life in ways you can not even imagine.

 

So, you may have been victimized, but it is a choice to be a victim.

You deserve better, your life can be better.

Much love,

Kelly Kristin xx

That Life you Dream of Can be Yours

That life that you dream of can be yours...

Over the last few years my life has done a complete 180.

I am healthier then I have ever been. (inside and out) 
I am happier then I have ever been. 
I have reclaimed my power and stepped into my purpose. 
I know that I am limitless and whatever I want will be mine…

It wasn’t an easy road to get to this space, but it was well worth the ride. 
My journey started with the power of positivity.

I realized that my own thoughts, beliefs and actions were not serving me. 
I had always thought that I was meant for MORE. 
I was existing but I wasn’t LIVING. 
I felt STUCK. 
I was in a relationship that I KNEW was not healthy for me. 
I was partying too much. 
I was lost, I didn’t have a sense of direction with what I wanted to do for ME. *Not anyone else.* I wasn’t clear on who I wanted to be, or what purpose I was serving. 
I had a feeling inside, a wanting, a desire, a NEED to get out…to do MORE…to LIVE…to be FULFILLED. 
But I was stuck, I was so stuck.

I would think it was too hard. There was too much I was leaving behind. How could I just START OVER?! I had invested so much time in where I was and what I was doing.
I literally said to myself at some points ͞"i guess this is what your life is. This is just how it’s going to be" (Even though I was MISERABLE)

There were times that I wanted to DIE, I thought that it would all just be easier. It would be better to die because I could end my suffering, I wouldn’t have to live like that anymore. (Do I sound crazy yet?)

I was so stuck in my story that I COULD NOT see any other options. 
That was it…live and suffer or die and end it.

Then the universe gave me a GIFT and pushed me so hard that I HAD to jump. I couldn’t live like that anymore. I couldn’t exist like that anymore.

And YES. It hurt, I fell, and I fell hard and I had to pick up the pieces. But I would never want to exist in a place where I didn’t jump.

What I learned and how much I have grown is PRICELESS.

It simply comes down to a mindset…that YOU can BE, DO, LIVE however you want.
A moment in time can trigger something so big inside of you that you know it was meant for YOU. 
You know at that moment that your life will never be the same.

You know there is no going back.

You could never be the same person that you were. And you would never want to be. 
It’s the moment that you took the red pill. 
You woke UP.

Woke up to the possibilities…to the TRUTH.

WE CREATE OUR REALITIES.

If you do not like where you are in your life then you have the power to change it. 
And if you are not CONCIOUSLY creating then your life is made up of what you ACCEPT.

IF YOU DO NOT LIKE YOUR LIFE IT IS BECAUSE OF DESCISIONS YOU HAVE MADE. NO ONE IS GOING TO SAVE YOU!

YOU have to save yourself. 
And yes, YOU ARE WORTH IT. 
YOU are worth saving. 
YOU just as you are. You are worth it and you are so enough just the way that you are. RIGHT NOW. 
Are you still waiting, are you stuck like I was? 
Waiting, waiting for something to change… to give… to just BE better. 
STOP BEING A VICTIM.

Take RESPONSIBILITY for YOUR life.

Take back control, YOUR I AM POWER.

YOU are POWERFUL. 
YOU are STRONG. 
YOU are BEAUTIFUL.

YOU deserve to have everything you have ever wanted and more! 
Don’t let other people dim your shine, beautiful.

Be who you want to be, who you were BORN to be.

You were born to shine…to live…to thrive. Don’t settle for a life that don’t really REALLY want to be living.

If this *resonates* with you reach out and lets chat!

Much love,

Kelly Kristin xx

A few truths

There is no going back now…

I have always known that I was intuitive.

I have been told since I was young that I was “wise beyond my years” and that I was a “healer”.

I think that I ran from that for a long time.

I ran from my power….

From my voice….

From my PURPOSE.

I hid, I was AFRAID to be seen, to be heard, to be criticized.

But I will no longer run, I will no longer hide, I will no longer stand in my way.

I made the DECISION to stand up, speak my truth, and be ME.

And as the real ME…these are the things that I unapologetically stand for and know to be TRUE…

1.       WE CREATE OUR REALITIES.

You are where you are precisely and ONLY because of YOU. Because of your thoughts, beliefs and ACTIONS.

You give things or people power over you and that is YOUR choice.

EVERYTHING in your life is a reflection of you.

At ANY time you can CHOOSE to change your circumstance.

You have the power of choice beautiful, USE IT!

Choose who you want to BE.

Choose how you want to LIVE.

And take ACTION.

It doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t happen by accident. You must do the WORK.

2.       RADICAL LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE CHANGES EVERYTHING.

If you can understand how to fully, truly, really LOVE and ACCEPT yourself as you are, no strings attached, no “I will love myself when”…but just AS YOU ARE...then you can do and become anything that you want.

You have to love yourself. You have to take care of yourself. You have to be UNAPOLEGETICALLY you.

YOU ARE WORTHY AND CAPABLE.

Do you question the worth of a child? Do you question whether a baby DESERVES love? NO…

So why do you question your own worth?

You are still that same child, that same baby, you ARE WORTHY of love…of the life you want.

You have a RIGHT to LOVE and to be LOVED….exactly as you want to be.

3.       EVERYTHING is connected.

Our physical health is greatly connected to our emotional and soul health. You can not focus on one area of your life and not consider the others.

To be truly happy, healthy and whole we must be in balance.

A healthy body correlates with a healthy MIND.

You can’t use your stomach as a trash can and expect to FEEL GOOD and function optimally.

You can’t look at yourself in the mirror with disgust, saying terrible things to yourself and expect to be happy.

You can’t be in a loveless, abusive, or otherwise unhealthy relationship and not expect it to take a physical toll on your body.

You need to treat yourself well, from all aspects.

I believe in science and soul, they work together. Your body keeps the score.

4.       YOU have the power to HEAL yourself.

You are meant to FEEL GOOD, no matter your age or situation.

You are a magical and divine being. You are powerful beyond your wildest imagination.

You can learn how to tune in to your needs and heal yourself.

You have the power to heal yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually.

 The answers ALWAYS lie within you!

Sometimes you just need to re-learn how to get back to that place of alignment and knowing…that place where you listen to your body and honor your needs.

When you begin to honor yourself, treat yourself well, and get into alignment you WILL HEAL.

5.       THERE IS NO NEED TO SETTLE… YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL.

That life that you want. That thing that you really want to do. That person you really want to be. That place you really want to live. That relationship that you really want….

It exists…and it is FOR YOU.

There is no need to settle…EVER.

You settle because you don’t trust.

You don’t trust your power, you don’t trust your worth and you don’t trust yourself.

But the thing is…you know…you ALWAYS know. You have that feeling inside that there is more. That you could do more…that life could be different.

You feel these things because they are REAL.

And the BEST news? You have the power of choice. The power to love and accept yourself. The power to heal yourself. The power to HAVE IT ALL.

The question is are you going to take it?

Are you going to DECIDE?

To live the life you want…

To be the person you want to be…

To do the things you really want to do…

What are you waiting for?

This is your LIFE. Your TIME in this game is LIMITED. Shouldn’t you just make the most of it?

After all,

Yes, you can have it all.

Much Love,

Kelly Kristin xx